*raises hand*
A lot of gamers are into talking about sex. Which always kind of creeps me out, as I imagine a lot of gamers are not people I find sexy.
Now I've had sex, and in fact I live in the sex capital of the US. Even my neighborhood grocery store is a hotbed of wild sex
The Marina Safeway supermarket is particularly notable for its swinger scene — it is frequently listed as one of the city's best pick-up spots and is affectionately known as the "Singles Safeway" or more recently, "Dateway." This concept was first popularized by the San Francisco author Armistead Maupin in his late 1970s novel "Tales of the City", a television mini-series which has been broadcast on PBS.
You can't even get a pizza around here without sex all over it.
It's what you call a sex positive town. We're in favor of everyone having all the sex they want as long as it doesn't harm anyone else. It's not the kind of place where everyone's all up in your business, telling you what you should like, and when, and with who. And, contrary to what some might expect, we manage to get along this way without a lot of death, tragedy, madness, etc., which could possibly imply that no, the universe will not implode if you have culturally unusual sex.
So in this utopia of tolerance, I identify as an unsexual. Due to tangential medical issues, I have no fertility cycle or reproductive capacity or any of that troublesome stuff for several years (and don't miss it), and I have a bad back that would get in the way of actually having sex assuming I had the desire to. My last romantic relationship peacefully dissolved about the same time these issues arose, and I really didn't see the point in finding a new partner to not have sex with, especially if they might try to get me to do housework or all those other things we tend to forgive our partners for if the sex is good. I've had lots of great sex in the past, but I refuse to discuss it because kissing and telling is tacky.
I've always been straight, despite certain peoples' best attempts to convince me otherwise, but my total lack of enthusiasm was leading me to describe myself as a "nonpracticing heterosexual" or "retired." I wondered if maybe I was an "asexual", until I found out there was such a thing as the "asexual community" and it seemed to be every bit as annoying and dramatic as all those communities that involve sex. So I think I'm coming out as an unsexual.
Being an unsexual is probably not grounds to complain about marginalization because we really aren't. Some unsexuals probably marry each other for cover in places where power tripping sexuals will give them a hard time if they don't, and occasionally one of us marries a sexual and prompts long whiny letters to advice columnists. But it's not like anyone really discriminates against us. They don't even seem to mind when we go around parading our lifestyle via our clothing choices (baggy sweaters, reasonably priced jackets, flat shoes, underwear concealed beneath outerwear).
I probably couldn't relate as well to unsexuality back when I was younger and sexual, and assumed everybody else was bobbing around in a similar hormonal tide. If they weren't, they were "repressed" -- a sneaky Freudian way of saying "I'm normal and you're either like me or screwed up, nyah nyah." I see that at work in games all the time, where Player A brags about the alleged superb sex it just had in an attempt to make Players B and C feel loserly and frustrated.
For some reason (probably sexual competition), sexuals like to pretend that everyone is just as sexual as they are. They like to represent that their sex adventures would cause everyone else to be be consumed with jealousy, revealing a curious point scoring method built into their own experience of sex. Some of them no doubt read the Jezebel headline that inspired this and thought "no way!"
Since you can't actually have sex in an online world, the subject of sex is basically tactical. It can involve group bonding (occasionally through exclusion as straights gang up on gays or boys gang up on girls), greed (I'll make my avatar dance naked on the mailbox if you give me some gold), demoralizing opponents, inflation of social status (hai guyz I posted pr0n on guild forums o.o), or the kind of super-below-the-belt insulting that goes online where you can't see other peoples' faces and have to escalate somehow.
It's entirely possible that watching sex conducted in entirely tactical fashion, with all the visual and aesthetic pleasure edited out, pushed me towards being the proud unsexual that I am today, but I'm more of a "born this way" person than an "environmental influence" person.
So my answer to the question of whether online gaming is more fun than sex is a resounding "hell yeah!" And I suspect that's true for a lot of people.
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